Moon Unit Zappa | The Family Unit

Like, I didn't even feel like I had a choice to,

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to not go into entertainment.

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And, and because while I was raised, where

my father was at the top of the pyramid,

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and I had to do everything in service

of my father, acting was very similar.

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Announcer: Welcome to Story Craft.

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Now, here's your host, Marc Preston.

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Okay, welcome

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Marc Preston: back.

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Another episode of Story Craft.

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How are ya?

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Good to have you here.

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My name is Marc Preston.

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If you're new to the show, glad to

have you checking out this episode

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as we sit down with Moon Unit Zappa.

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Of course, her father, the

legendary Frank Zappa, she had

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a wonderful career of her own.

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I remember her like many Gen X kids

with her brother Dweezil Zappa.

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They did the MTV thing

together for a while.

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But right now she's got

a brand new memoir out.

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It is called Earth to Moon.

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It covers a lot of ground about

growing up in the Zappa household

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and kind of how those things continue

to affect her into adulthood.

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Some unique stories in there

and a really great storyteller.

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She did a wonderful job of just making it

Just interesting to read a real pleasure.

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So I tell you what, let's get after

it today is Moon Unit Zappa Day,

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right here on Story and Craft.

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So where are you joining me from?

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From the East Coast.

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Thank you You grew up in the

LA area or how long have you

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been in on the East Coast?

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Moon Zappa: This is a place where I

decided to finish my memoir, but I've

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been bouncing around between Los Angeles

and New Mexico and yeah, and New York and

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Connecticut and just jumping around trying

to figure out where, where to be next.

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Marc Preston: By the way, I just

got your, your wonderful memoir

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here just a couple of days ago.

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And I've been trying to read it,

but I'm laying in bed because I'm

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one of those people that cannot read

without it just putting me to sleep.

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So how does it feel to have it completed?

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And this out in the world

is a sense of relief.

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I didn't

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Moon Zappa: plan past just getting it

done and crossing that finish line.

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And so now this is the weird part

where the introvert has to go interact

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with people because writing is a

profession that that is right for

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my temperament, my nervous system

to retreat and just work by myself.

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So this part is.

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a little weird.

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People are asking me just

lighthearted questions about some

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of the most upsetting things.

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The set that they focus

on is also fascinating.

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Marc Preston: And I could see where

somebody would, you may run into or

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encounter folks who are just trying to

be a little bit flip considering your

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father was, they're just focusing on

the cultural aspect of things, not the

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actual what's happening in the home.

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And I just thought it was Charming's a

little bit of a reductive phrase, but how

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you talk about the home and the, and it

was not like y'all bounced around a lot.

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Y'all kind of planted roots and

this is where your home was.

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This was the epicenter.

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I haven't gotten far enough in,

but is that still a family home?

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Do y'all still have that home?

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We

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Moon Zappa: don't have that home.

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And my mother was a

military kid and my father.

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His family moved around a lot, and

so I, I think that it's just natural

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to want to have one spot that's

your own, that you plant roots.

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The difference is that it was Gail Zappa

and Frank Zappa, who I was introduced

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to as Gail and Frank from birth.

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They both had these, Gail's sense of

whimsy and Frank's wildness that the

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space, there, there was a studio in the

house that started off as a two bedroom.

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Ranch style house.

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It just kept growing and

growing into a Robinson Crusoe.

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I forget the Winchester house where it's

like stairways that go to doors that

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don't open or doors onto brick walls.

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And it was under construction

Monday through Saturday.

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Honestly, my entire life, it was, uh,

it was anything that struck their fancy.

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Marc Preston: When you said it was two

bedroom, I, when I read that, I was

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like, how could you fit the entire family

in a recording studio and all that?

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Didn't.

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There was like a

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Moon Zappa: half floor.

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There was, Gail would go to old, to

salvage yards and get old submarine

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doors and submarine windows, and then

get stuff that was from Bali and India.

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And I called the house

style, Mediterranean.

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Because it was Tudor, it was

Mediterranean, it was everything.

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The jungle in the backyards.

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She, at one point, she had a spiral

staircase made with the cards you

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would use to, the ESP cards where

you'd practice remote viewing and

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sending and receiving psychic messages.

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She had those symbols

put on the staircase.

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Marc Preston: Take a look at the back

here of the book and you have Like you

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have Allegra Houston, Rosanna Arquette.

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I noticed like these are folks who have

families who are creatives around them.

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Was that kind of by design you wanted

to touch base with these folks?

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Moon Zappa: Creatives

spend time with creatives.

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It's it because we have a common

language of just we work in

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that arena in a state of play.

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Your emotions are paint colors.

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Your experiences are.

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Material for storytelling.

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It's that's it's just I'd love to make

other friends, but I don't meet them.

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Marc Preston: What was

your ecosystem growing up?

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You had the Zappa household.

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Who were you spending time

with other folks who whose

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families were in the industry?

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Or what was that like?

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Moon Zappa: The neighborhood where I grew

up didn't have sidewalks, so you didn't

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get a chance to know your neighbors

because you couldn't walk anywhere.

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You drive everywhere and then

people stayed in their houses.

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So The terrain of the area doesn't

really lend itself to getting

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to know people very easily.

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And it's not until you get

into school that you start

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to see who your community is.

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And early on, I went to public school,

rode the bus and, uh, really enjoyed.

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I didn't realize until later

that I actually am an academic.

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I have an academic mind.

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I love learning.

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I'm an autodidact.

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I dive into any subject.

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But in terms of growing up in

a famous household, I met so

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many of my heroes so early on.

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And so it made me feel like, Oh, that's

all it is at the end of the, you make

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it to the tippy top, you're just.

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Partying and, and having small talk.

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It was just, it just wasn't

that interesting to me.

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So yeah, it just, it, I think it's an

advantage because then it made me think

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beyond fame and beyond, uh, some of the

stuff that maybe other people aspire to.

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I

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Marc Preston: think you were 14.

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I think you did an episode of Letterman

and it's funny how you, that said

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the whole Valley girl thing was not

really designed to be something cute.

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It was like a social commentary on

the Valley, but did they push for

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like Normalcy for you to normal

friends are no way associated

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with the entertainment industry.

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Was that something they pushed forward?

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Was it where you left your own devices

to make the friends you make and whatnot?

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Moon Zappa: I, my, my parents were not

people that were necessarily very social.

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My father was just

committed to his creativity.

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So he.

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There was not really, we

didn't have sit down meals.

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The two meals we have that were sit

down were Christmas and Thanksgiving.

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He was just dedicated to his creativity.

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He would spend all his time either

touring seven to nine months out

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of a year or just creating, and he

didn't do drugs and he didn't drink.

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And so it was just, he didn't want any

obstacle between him and his creativity.

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And so this was passed on to all of us.

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I think we, we also have that

desire to just be in that,

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again, that pure expression.

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And, and then the inner landscape

is the unchartered territory.

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That's more interesting than again,

party small talk and this kind of thing.

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There was no, I don't think there was.

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I've got to stay famous.

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It was just like, I want to keep

being able to make my work and

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make a living from doing my work.

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He was a very hard worker.

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We

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Marc Preston: all

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Moon Zappa: are.

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Marc Preston: Yeah.

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I got that from reading.

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Uh, it seemed like he was very,

like you said, focused, he was

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very focused on what he was

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Moon Zappa: doing.

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When he got cancer later in

his life, he was mad that he

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could only work 40 hours a week.

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He really was a, he just was, that's, that

was, that's where he got his dopamine hit.

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That's where that's the thing that,

that just was always moving through him.

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Marc Preston: As far as like

the impetus for writing this.

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Obviously we all have a story

we want to tell our story.

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We sometimes it's more for us.

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And I, in fact, the prologue of the

book, you said, this is for me also.

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Was this an effort to get all

of these pieces assembled?

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And what was the impetus for

writing this for the most part?

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Moon Zappa: The impetus was the events

that come later in the chapters, which

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if you haven't got to yet, but what

happened was at the end of Gail's

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life, I had come to understand that.

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We were just not naturally compatible,

shall we say, this is an understatement.

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And I had made peace with that fact.

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And I assumed that she had too,

but when she died, she left all

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the intellectual property to my two

younger siblings that I helped raise.

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And this was a shock to my nervous system.

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It was such a massive betrayal.

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It wasn't the stuff.

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It was the idea that she wished two

of us were not the other two, even

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though we were all her actual children.

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And as a parent, this is

an unimaginable idea to me.

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And so this was a real turning point

in my life where I had to go back and

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re evaluate what is family, what is

trust, what is connection, everything.

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I had to re look at my entire childhood,

all the things I thought were fun,

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happy, safe, whatever the list is.

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And so that was a, yeah,

that's, that was the journey.

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And so I guess, If I thought if I'm

struggling with this and I have resources,

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what is somebody else's experience in it?

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And they don't.

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So if you take away nothing else

from the book, love yourself.

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And if you're going to drop a will, make

it even Stevens, have a final loving

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offering, even if you don't get along with

the people in your life, it just, it just

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is, it's the kindest thing you can do.

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And another thing I really love is.

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I had a teacher that would say, it's

better to do a good thing very quickly

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and a bad thing very slowly, so slowly.

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In fact, that you hopefully never do it

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Marc Preston: with your folks.

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Uh, your mother in particular was

the relationship and your mind,

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uh, was it, uh, fraught, was it

difficult throughout your life to

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something that really was starting to

culminate towards the end of her life

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Moon Zappa: as I went back and

researched it and I, cause people

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would say, did you see it coming?

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And then when I went back and really

looked at my journals and looked at

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the events in my life, It all tracked.

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I just, for example, they were my,

both, both Gail and Frank were estranged

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from many of their family members.

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So there was the culture of

estrangement, but I just didn't

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think it would happen to me.

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I didn't think that there'd be that

kind of dismissal and that kind of,

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yeah, just that, that kind of erasure.

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It's, you just don't, you just

don't, it's, it was, again, as a

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parent, it's an unimaginable final.

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Say on a singular exit, you don't get a

second chance at making those corrections.

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And yeah, it's been a journey.

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And I get it.

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It's that's one of the, I think the

universal things about my book, even

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though some of the people are, they're

famous people that I'm learning my

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lessons, my life lessons opposite there.

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I'm still just learning life lessons.

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I could have just, it could have just

been somebody I went to school with.

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That's just same as anybody, but

they happen to be people that have

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recognizable names and careers.

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Marc Preston: And did you notice as

you got older, you start seeing things

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through a different prism, especially

when you have a child or you have, like,

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when I had my children, I started going,

you start becoming a little bit more

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forgiving, uh, but at the same time, you

also become like a little bit more like

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critical of really, you didn't see this.

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You always think the grass is greener

when you're a kid and then you start

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knowing years later, decades later,

Oh, their life had stuff going on also.

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But your perception is.

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I got this weird thing going on here.

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Grass is greener over there.

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And I recognized that, like I said,

it's a little bit more forgiving, but

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at the same time, like you're a parent,

there's some things you need to do.

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Moon Zappa: I'm not somebody who

likes to go back and blame people.

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I'm definitely a solution based

person and I'm a, I try to create

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opportunities that, that, that are the

best situations for the most people.

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And I think that some people pride

themselves on being polite and never

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sharing what's really going on.

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Okay.

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And to me, those are some of the

most unsafe people because you're,

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there's so much room for projection

and thinking that things are one

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way when they are not that way.

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It's far riskier to really

say who you are, and when

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you're a kid, you, you can't.

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You're, you don't have that safety.

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You're just like reading the room

and trying to, what's the answer I

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say so that I still get the answer.

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Take you to school or I, I

have a roof over my head.

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And as you get older, um, in my

case, a little of me made Gail angry.

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So a lot of me, I didn't think was

ultimately safe, but that journey of,

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of coming into that real honoring of, we

didn't pick our eye color, our height,

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our, Responses to stimulus, we're, we're

just, we're a goodie bag of weirdness.

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And you have to make peace with all

parts of yourself and then decide, do

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I want to carry the bad wiring forward

or do I want to say it ends with me?

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And so those are some of the other

things that I address in the book.

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And I give the reader that

opportunity to try on how I think.

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And how big I love.

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And I hope that's some of the

stuff that is interesting.

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And it might read like science

fiction to some people.

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Marc Preston: Did you ever feel like when

you're going up that you had a, when you

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met kids or explaining what your family

dynamic is like, because for them that

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may feel completely foreign calling your

parents by their first name, did you, or

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do you just say, this is the way it is?

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Or did you have an inclination

to want to explain things at all?

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Moon Zappa: We were the go

to house because people felt.

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more free in my family's home.

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They could curse, they could

get dirty, they could play with

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art supplies and get messy.

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And, and so those kinds of things, I

moved forward into my own household.

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I love being the house that.

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Provides the, that kind of experience

for, for my kids friends and for my kid.

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So in terms of wanting to explain it to

anybody, no, I like that aspect of it,

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but I craved the normalcy of, um, soup

when you're sick or a hug when you're sad,

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or again, if you can cursing as much as

you want to me, wasn't as interesting as

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having the ability to have my feelings

with the people that I hear so much about.

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So that's, and in an artistic home.

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There's not really, there's

a momentum of chaos.

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That's just, that's moving

the creativity forward.

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And there's just, it's not a

great environment to, for people

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to get the, for the rest of the

family to get their needs met.

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Marc Preston: Going back when I

was watching that one episode of

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Letterman with you and your dad, it

was a, it was, I was like, you're

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only 14, but you seem very articulate.

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I would have been like nervous out of

my mind there sitting on stage with

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my dad on Letterman in New York and

where your folks like that they put a

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lot of value in you communicating and.

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Being able to articulate yourself

very well, because I was sitting

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there going, she's only 14.

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How can you feel that

seemingly comfortable?

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Moon Zappa: My father was ultimately

Sicilian, so I felt, he had the, he

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exuded the wattage of a mob boss.

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So, I felt somewhat protected in that

sense, if something went off the rails.

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And also, my, my both of,

Gail and Frank, they were very

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much, they were word people.

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And I, we all had gigantic vocabularies

by the time we were, I don't even

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know what age we could all quote the

Jabberwocky probably by age five.

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And because we had a famous father,

there was also this sense of we

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represent this person in public.

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There was that sense

that you have to be just.

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Respectful and professional.

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Marc Preston: What were you up to

besides going back to the growing up?

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I know it was happening around the house,

but where were your interests taking you?

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I don't know.

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I have hobbies.

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It's kind of a hobby and things you were

doing besides the Zappa family thing.

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The thing that you're starting

to carve out on your own.

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Moon Zappa: Again, early on in my life,

I, Frank's music was being pumped into

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the house through an intercom system.

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And so.

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Sound was very prominent in my life

and every sound was a potential,

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again, a paint color for what

my father called air sculpting.

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And I'm very auditory and I just had

a fascination with voices and cartoon

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voices and when I tell a story about

Getting to meet the original snow white

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and then being confused because she

was a person, but she was also the, and

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then later on getting to see Lily Tomlin

perform and watching her transform into

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all these different kinds of characters.

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And so I was, I think if you're

lucky, you do get exposed to things

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that kind of, that you come into this

world with these natural abilities

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and something catches this fire.

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A spark catches fire because you're.

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Interacting with that thing.

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And for whatever reason, Performing

sound, these kinds of things

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were very interesting to me.

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And I just have, I have an ear for that.

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And also because I was so hypervigilant,

I was just always just paying attention

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to absolutely everything around me.

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And then growing up in show business in

Los Angeles, California and Hollywood, it

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just seemed like the natural progression.

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Like I didn't even feel like I had a

choice to not go into entertainment.

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And because of how I was raised, where

my father was at the top of the pyramid.

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And I had to do everything

in service of my father.

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Acting was very similar.

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Somebody tells you where to stand.

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Somebody tells you the words to say,

somebody's deciding your clothing.

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It was unfortunately a natural, I

sometimes wonder if I would have

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picked something else in another town.

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Marc Preston: What like musically,

what were you into when you were a kid?

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Moon Zappa: depended on the age.

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I really loved heavy metal as a

teenager to my father's disappointment.

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But he would bring music

back from around the world.

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And so I was exposed to what they

call it at the time, world music.

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So the Bulgarian women's music choir

and the three Mustafa's and he brought

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back Lena Lovitch and Nina Hagen,

but also the Modets, but also Bach.

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And, and then he also brought

back the first B 52's album.

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So that was really thrilling

to get to hear that.

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And yeah, I just, I don't

have, I like, I don't know.

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Almost all forms of music.

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I, I, I just like it, it's

just interesting to see how

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people express themselves

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Marc Preston: with you.

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And Dweezil.

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How did y'all end up on MTV, because

I have a recollection of that, but

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how often were you on MTV as a guest?

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VJs, I, which is a phrase, I don't know.

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I, my, I, I'm used a phrase, VJ and I,

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Moon Zappa: yeah, yeah.

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I think in, in the course of a

year, we probably did, I wanna

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say 18 weeks out of the year.

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So we would go to New York for two weeks

maybe, and then shoot a bunch of stuff.

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But yeah, I think they just, they

found us because we were at that time

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doing television appearances here

and there and, and yeah, they just,

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they, it just, we just got lucky.

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Marc Preston: I remember back when I

worked on the radio years and years

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ago, you had to watch MTV to know what

was going on culturally, pre internet,

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something I think my kids like.

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Completely oblivious to, but

moved starting West coast,

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started going East coast.

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And now everything's just

instantaneous everywhere.

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And everybody watched MTV

to know what was going on.

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And it's so weird.

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Now I'll try to explain to my kids what

MTV was like videos, but what was that

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like to be a part of what the, of the.

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I don't want to use the word zeitgeist

or whatever, but the MTV was plugged in.

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You were part of it.

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Did it, what was that experience like?

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Moon Zappa: I was a teenager.

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So it was amazing to be in the

middle of the most fun thing at the

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most fun age, at the most fun time.

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That was, that was really, that was again,

another way to meet some of my idols.

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What was so hilarious was.

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I had a massive crush on,

as a 19 year old, I had a

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massive crush on Spalding Gray.

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Again, these people that would perform

one person shows and tell stories.

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I guess I've always been interested

in every single form of storytelling.

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I remember when I heard Sinead

O'Connor and saw that video of

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her singing Nothing Compares to

You, which was written by Prince.

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I couldn't believe that somebody

else could write a song and she

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could bring it so fully to life.

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And really tell the story that I wouldn't

have heard had it just been a song like.

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She understood the material so

well that another, it elevated

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it to a stratospheric realm.

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And so, again, I just always

had my eyes and ears attuned

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to, does, is this thing a poem?

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Is this thing a song?

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Is this thing, what's the best way

to, to express the idea that's, that

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you catch in your butterfly net?

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By

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Marc Preston: the way, Priest, by,

if you hear it, a sound of my mind

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in the condo building here, my

neighbor's getting a new floor put in.

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It's just Gordon.

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So they said there was no

way to isolate that sound.

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One of the things I'm curious about is

and looking, uh, I had this discussion

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with one of my kids not too long ago,

but like, you can look at any decade,

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50, 60, 70, you can hear a song and,

and, and plugs you into that era.

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And I like to me that after

about the eighties, maybe part

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of the nineties, we really don't.

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It doesn't feel like we really

have that anymore, as much anymore.

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What do you think, and I'm asking

to go on a limb here, but what

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do you think your dad would feel?

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What do you think Frank would

feel about music industry now?

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What's coming out?

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Moon Zappa: Well, if you go with science

and objects in motion tend to stay

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in motion, then yeah, he would have

been a pioneer in every single realm.

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As something was developed,

he'd take it to another level.

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He was an out of the box

thinker and needle mover.

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I'm sure he would have.

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Uh, found another way to express himself.

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Now it's a really difficult time

because you could be canceled at any

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moment, but he had the temperament to

withstand that, that kind of an idea.

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And I remember hearing a story

about, uh, Richard Pryor.

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And how he would go, uh, to the, I think

it was the comedy store or something on

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a Monday, get booed and walkouts until

Thursday or Friday, then he'd get standing

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ovations and then he'd start again.

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And the people, the artists

that are around now.

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That have that ability to withstand

somebody with a, an iPhone or somebody

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recording something before you even

have a chance to develop something.

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It's a, it's just a trickier time.

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You have to be much

braver as an artist now.

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And I really appreciate when they take

your phones and your devices away.

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So number one, enjoy the

experience and not try to double

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experience it at the same time.

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And just that you give the artist

the freedom and then you have

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that intimacy that you would have.

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That moment won't come again, that

one singular, that's why seeing

453

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something live is so amazing.

454

00:22:37,460 --> 00:22:41,160

Marc Preston: It seems like comedians like

Pryor or Carlin or guys like that, that

455

00:22:41,180 --> 00:22:46,080

they having the commentary out there that

it was important, same thing with music.

456

00:22:46,830 --> 00:22:50,089

Were comedians, was that part of

the ecosystem as well growing up?

457

00:22:50,099 --> 00:22:53,885

Moon Zappa: Not in my house, but

certainly when I got Out into the

458

00:22:53,885 --> 00:22:58,365

world and on my own, my father's

humor was, was just, it was, he was

459

00:22:58,365 --> 00:22:59,625

just the funniest person I knew.

460

00:22:59,635 --> 00:23:05,585

So of course I was still craving

that kind of a level of quick wit

461

00:23:05,594 --> 00:23:10,565

and his insights and his, the things

he observed and reflect back as a

462

00:23:10,565 --> 00:23:12,114

sort of cultural anthropologist.

463

00:23:12,115 --> 00:23:17,225

And so then it made me again,

pursue the comedy world and see

464

00:23:17,585 --> 00:23:21,405

what are the different styles of

comedy, mean spirited comedy versus.

465

00:23:21,830 --> 00:23:27,730

evergreen jokes that play in any room

versus alternative storytelling absurdist.

466

00:23:27,750 --> 00:23:29,470

There's all these different forms of it.

467

00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:33,189

And again, it's just, it's endlessly

interesting and all of it funny.

468

00:23:33,189 --> 00:23:35,119

I remember one, one act that I.

469

00:23:35,514 --> 00:23:36,345

Really enjoyed.

470

00:23:36,355 --> 00:23:40,735

It was two guys, Andy Secunda and I'm

spacing on my other friend's name.

471

00:23:40,754 --> 00:23:46,485

Andy, another Andy does a bonanza

bananas for bonanza podcast.

472

00:23:46,494 --> 00:23:53,254

Anyway, they did this bit and it was,

there were two vaudevillian characters

473

00:23:53,254 --> 00:23:56,394

that didn't get along anymore at so much.

474

00:23:56,395 --> 00:23:59,895

So that one had to come on by

himself and he would do some of the

475

00:23:59,905 --> 00:24:02,145

setups and some of the punchlines.

476

00:24:02,175 --> 00:24:04,935

And then he'd leave the stage and then

the other one would come on and do.

477

00:24:05,300 --> 00:24:07,750

Some of the punch lines

and some of the setups.

478

00:24:07,750 --> 00:24:11,550

And so you, as the audience member

had to imagine what those things stop.

479

00:24:11,770 --> 00:24:11,950

Marc Preston: Yeah.

480

00:24:12,300 --> 00:24:13,700

It's like a build your own comedy show.

481

00:24:14,059 --> 00:24:14,319

It

482

00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:17,540

Moon Zappa: was that combination of

just that high intelligence plus that

483

00:24:17,540 --> 00:24:19,989

absurdity, which again, I was raised with.

484

00:24:20,290 --> 00:24:20,999

I just, I.

485

00:24:21,395 --> 00:24:24,015

Yeah, that's one of the ways I refuel

and that's one of the ways I got

486

00:24:24,025 --> 00:24:28,105

through the difficulty of writing the

book was either watching revenge based

487

00:24:28,105 --> 00:24:29,805

movies or seeing a lot of comedy.

488

00:24:30,045 --> 00:24:33,545

Marc Preston: It seemed like that

your dad, with him touring, going

489

00:24:33,545 --> 00:24:37,115

out for long stretches, it would

just be you and the family at home.

490

00:24:37,295 --> 00:24:40,465

What was it like when you were, when

he was out on tour and it's now the

491

00:24:40,465 --> 00:24:43,235

family unit is now four, four of y'all?

492

00:24:43,335 --> 00:24:44,134

Five, five, five,

493

00:24:44,134 --> 00:24:44,405

Moon Zappa: five of us.

494

00:24:44,405 --> 00:24:44,665

Yeah.

495

00:24:44,665 --> 00:24:46,825

There's Amit, Dweezil, Diva.

496

00:24:47,465 --> 00:24:52,414

And me, I think in families, the

birth order, the gender, the, all of

497

00:24:52,414 --> 00:24:55,134

these things, again, universal ideas.

498

00:24:55,134 --> 00:24:59,354

And I tell my version of it, but,

and when I look back at all the

499

00:24:59,355 --> 00:25:04,324

memories, I realized that I saw

as the oldest, I saw my siblings

500

00:25:04,324 --> 00:25:05,875

as shoulder to shoulder with me.

501

00:25:06,270 --> 00:25:10,990

And they, they saw me as another

thing standing over them.

502

00:25:11,130 --> 00:25:14,120

And I didn't realize that until

I put myself in their shoes as I

503

00:25:14,120 --> 00:25:15,190

was writing some of these stories.

504

00:25:15,190 --> 00:25:20,890

Originally, I had, my dream was that we

write a, a shared memoir, uh, family.

505

00:25:21,029 --> 00:25:21,220

That'd be cool.

506

00:25:21,239 --> 00:25:22,679

I hadn't seen it done before.

507

00:25:22,679 --> 00:25:24,739

And I thought that'd be really

interesting because then we could,

508

00:25:25,760 --> 00:25:30,120

map it on a timeline and each one

of us could fill in some little

509

00:25:31,090 --> 00:25:34,560

gap there, but yeah, life changed.

510

00:25:34,590 --> 00:25:38,520

Uh, and, and in some ways they all got,

we all got different parents really.

511

00:25:39,610 --> 00:25:42,289

You grow a little bit and you

try different stuff and then

512

00:25:42,299 --> 00:25:45,219

the kids, everyone's born

with a different temperament.

513

00:25:45,219 --> 00:25:48,840

So then all these factors come

into play, but there, there is that

514

00:25:49,229 --> 00:25:54,020

common sense of humor, that common

intelligence, that common artistic side.

515

00:25:54,050 --> 00:25:56,209

So there is shared history there.

516

00:25:56,600 --> 00:26:00,150

That's, that's my middle name's

unit because we, I was the first

517

00:26:00,150 --> 00:26:01,540

born and we became a family unit.

518

00:26:01,540 --> 00:26:02,860

So family is huge.

519

00:26:02,900 --> 00:26:04,040

It's just hugely important to me.

520

00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,529

And I think anytime you're missing

something, you become an expert

521

00:26:07,540 --> 00:26:09,300

in how valuable that thing is.

522

00:26:09,769 --> 00:26:12,479

Marc Preston: You mentioned the

acrimony and just the way things

523

00:26:12,479 --> 00:26:15,929

materialized, uh, or devolved

with, with Gail towards the end.

524

00:26:16,360 --> 00:26:17,680

Did you pick up on any of that?

525

00:26:17,690 --> 00:26:21,010

Like when Frank was on tour and

just be the family together, I

526

00:26:21,010 --> 00:26:23,749

caught a note that you felt like

you were not a parent, but you were

527

00:26:23,750 --> 00:26:25,430

there helping raise your siblings.

528

00:26:25,754 --> 00:26:29,364

Were you ever upset that was being maybe

put upon you or did you embrace it?

529

00:26:29,364 --> 00:26:31,925

Like you dug the fact that you were able

to help out with a family like that.

530

00:26:32,034 --> 00:26:36,304

Moon Zappa: I, it depended on the

day, but overall, I definitely

531

00:26:36,354 --> 00:26:39,344

felt like I was robbed of a

childhood, but I felt like I was.

532

00:26:40,005 --> 00:26:44,745

Opposite two people who are also robbed of

a childhood and it keeps going and going.

533

00:26:44,745 --> 00:26:47,855

And so that's why I say

blame is not the interesting.

534

00:26:48,115 --> 00:26:49,405

It's not interesting to me.

535

00:26:49,465 --> 00:26:53,354

What is interesting is looking at a

dynamic and then saying, I'm not going

536

00:26:53,354 --> 00:26:57,504

to participate in this dynamic when

I am able to not participate in it.

537

00:26:57,514 --> 00:26:59,194

As a kid, you're stuck in there.

538

00:26:59,194 --> 00:27:00,665

And so you're just working

with those systems.

539

00:27:00,685 --> 00:27:03,625

But, but I, I just knew

there was another way.

540

00:27:03,695 --> 00:27:04,855

There was the combination of.

541

00:27:05,409 --> 00:27:09,159

The messaging from I Dream of Jeannie

on television and Bewitched, these

542

00:27:09,169 --> 00:27:13,080

messages that, that girls didn't,

they were just going to become nurses.

543

00:27:13,229 --> 00:27:14,589

There was that side of things.

544

00:27:14,589 --> 00:27:16,739

So, so being a caretaker.

545

00:27:17,100 --> 00:27:19,659

It was built in and also

my father was Italian.

546

00:27:19,659 --> 00:27:21,680

So the idea of being barefoot

and pregnant, there was

547

00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:22,570

some of that in the house.

548

00:27:22,570 --> 00:27:27,340

But there was also get out there and

make something of your art, your life.

549

00:27:27,340 --> 00:27:29,720

And so there were these,

again, these double messages.

550

00:27:29,740 --> 00:27:33,469

And, and so I remember hearing

that expression, it's never too

551

00:27:33,469 --> 00:27:34,659

late to have a happy childhood.

552

00:27:34,660 --> 00:27:36,710

And I thought that doesn't, I don't

even understand what that means.

553

00:27:36,710 --> 00:27:40,110

But as I get older, I realized,

yeah, there's you, there's

554

00:27:40,110 --> 00:27:41,180

certain times when you.

555

00:27:41,550 --> 00:27:45,639

When you can go back and move old

parts of yourself into present time

556

00:27:45,669 --> 00:27:49,180

and you can give yourself experiences

that you didn't that you didn't

557

00:27:49,180 --> 00:27:50,400

get to have when you were younger.

558

00:27:50,580 --> 00:27:55,000

And but there's no timeline on when

you can experience some of that stuff.

559

00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:55,449

You just

560

00:27:56,460 --> 00:27:57,220

Marc Preston: Becoming a mother.

561

00:27:57,220 --> 00:27:58,960

Did that kind of help facilitate that?

562

00:27:58,970 --> 00:28:01,770

Like you were maybe at the same time,

your daughter's experiencing something

563

00:28:01,770 --> 00:28:05,530

you together with her, you're diving

into that experience, creating things

564

00:28:05,530 --> 00:28:06,730

that you didn't have when you were a kid.

565

00:28:06,919 --> 00:28:10,419

Moon Zappa: And then because I

was such a hypervigilant dedicated

566

00:28:10,490 --> 00:28:13,739

learner, I read every parenting

book that I could get my hands on.

567

00:28:13,739 --> 00:28:17,699

And one, one really, a couple

made just, I love so much.

568

00:28:17,699 --> 00:28:21,209

One was Alfie Cohen's book on, I think

it's, I forget the name of it, but

569

00:28:21,209 --> 00:28:23,159

it's about empathy based parenting.

570

00:28:23,460 --> 00:28:28,860

Another one was Dan Siegel's book on brain

development and what you can really expect

571

00:28:28,860 --> 00:28:32,310

from somebody and somebody's brain isn't

even developed until they're 26 years old.

572

00:28:32,390 --> 00:28:36,780

And then the work of Marshall Rosenberg

was another person and that, that really

573

00:28:37,100 --> 00:28:41,879

helped me to understand just how not

fun my childhood was because one of

574

00:28:41,879 --> 00:28:44,180

the exercises was you stand on a chair.

575

00:28:44,575 --> 00:28:50,085

And you yell at an adult and you say,

you get a timeout and it's absurd, right?

576

00:28:50,085 --> 00:28:53,435

If you're standing over someone and

you're an adult standing on a chair and

577

00:28:53,565 --> 00:28:56,694

you're screaming at somebody to take

a timeout, that would never happen.

578

00:28:56,695 --> 00:29:01,184

So why would you do it to somebody who

is completely tiny, who you're just

579

00:29:01,235 --> 00:29:05,695

a wall of anger coming at somebody

who doesn't have any of the ability

580

00:29:05,715 --> 00:29:08,335

to like timeouts are literally.

581

00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:09,360

Ridiculous.

582

00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:12,240

They're, they're, you

wouldn't say that to an adult.

583

00:29:12,250 --> 00:29:15,530

So why would you say somebody who

cannot possibly comprehend the

584

00:29:15,530 --> 00:29:16,590

information you're trying to impart?

585

00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:17,739

It's just, it's awful.

586

00:29:18,510 --> 00:29:18,600

Marc Preston: Yeah.

587

00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:20,130

You said that your brain doesn't develop.

588

00:29:20,130 --> 00:29:23,189

I've, I remember like your frontal

cortex, something does develop till

589

00:29:23,189 --> 00:29:27,950

later, but your mother, she was 20, 21

when you were born, something like that.

590

00:29:27,990 --> 00:29:28,200

Yeah.

591

00:29:28,220 --> 00:29:28,920

Very young.

592

00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:29,500

And my dad was,

593

00:29:29,570 --> 00:29:30,790

Moon Zappa: maybe she was 21.

594

00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:31,100

Yeah.

595

00:29:31,100 --> 00:29:34,360

And my dad was having 25

yeah, they were still kids.

596

00:29:35,310 --> 00:29:37,670

Marc Preston: I'm enjoying getting into

the book, and I want to keep, I want

597

00:29:37,670 --> 00:29:38,980

to keep trucking, you know, through it.

598

00:29:39,070 --> 00:29:41,530

The interesting thing is when you

look back on your childhood through

599

00:29:41,530 --> 00:29:46,375

adult eyes, you just see things A

little differently, again, you forgive

600

00:29:46,375 --> 00:29:49,245

some things and, but you also make

decisions on how you're going to do

601

00:29:49,265 --> 00:29:50,935

things differently with your kids.

602

00:29:50,975 --> 00:29:54,015

And you recognize, even though you're

trying to do things differently, you

603

00:29:54,015 --> 00:29:57,925

can hear, feel those echoes of things

popping back up, those habits or whatever.

604

00:29:58,015 --> 00:30:01,255

Did you have any epiphanies when

you had your daughter that, like,

605

00:30:01,335 --> 00:30:03,324

Moon Zappa: Yeah, wherever

my parents fell short.

606

00:30:03,605 --> 00:30:06,595

I also didn't have a tool

for handling that situation.

607

00:30:06,645 --> 00:30:12,305

Even now as my kid's 20 now and, and

we're in some territory where I'm like,

608

00:30:12,305 --> 00:30:13,675

I didn't learn this lesson either.

609

00:30:13,675 --> 00:30:15,205

We're learning the same thing together.

610

00:30:15,555 --> 00:30:18,855

And, but it's the, the

difference is being able to say.

611

00:30:19,250 --> 00:30:23,960

I don't know, let's find somebody who can

help with that, or I don't know, but we'll

612

00:30:23,970 --> 00:30:27,930

walk each other all the way there, you

won't be alone in whatever you're going

613

00:30:27,930 --> 00:30:34,030

through, or saying sorry for an injury,

preparing a rupture, deepening intimacy

614

00:30:34,030 --> 00:30:38,910

and that connection when you do repair a

rupture, this kind of stuff, that wasn't,

615

00:30:38,950 --> 00:30:42,850

that didn't happen growing up, and for

whatever reason, I just had an interest

616

00:30:42,860 --> 00:30:49,735

in In creating more of that, again,

whenever you're missing, it's there's an

617

00:30:49,735 --> 00:30:51,915

opportunity to become an expert in it.

618

00:30:51,925 --> 00:30:57,515

And so alongside the Bewitched stuff,

there was also Nelson Mandela and

619

00:30:57,525 --> 00:31:02,405

Gandhi and Sister Helen Prejean

and these exemplary people that

620

00:31:02,425 --> 00:31:08,040

had just, They had a generosity

of spirit and a clarity of mind.

621

00:31:08,070 --> 00:31:11,740

I saw it out of teachers that had

that kind of that clear seeing.

622

00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:13,390

And so that I can,

623

00:31:14,060 --> 00:31:16,500

Marc Preston: right there where you said

you sought out teachers and you sought

624

00:31:16,500 --> 00:31:18,380

out like us mentors and things like that.

625

00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:21,680

So you saw the deficiency or almost

organically, you're trying to

626

00:31:21,690 --> 00:31:22,704

reach out and grab step by step.

627

00:31:22,925 --> 00:31:26,235

Did your daughter, what did she think

about the book or did she already

628

00:31:26,235 --> 00:31:27,645

know all these stories already?

629

00:31:27,645 --> 00:31:29,895

Or was this kind of new material for her?

630

00:31:29,995 --> 00:31:30,445

She's

631

00:31:30,515 --> 00:31:30,895

Moon Zappa: not going to

632

00:31:30,895 --> 00:31:31,055

Marc Preston: read

633

00:31:31,055 --> 00:31:32,395

Moon Zappa: the book, but that's fine.

634

00:31:32,615 --> 00:31:34,575

Who wants to read something

about their parents?

635

00:31:34,595 --> 00:31:37,665

Boring, but one, one funny story.

636

00:31:37,665 --> 00:31:39,865

I don't think I, I don't think it

got in the book, but one of the

637

00:31:39,865 --> 00:31:43,835

first times my kid actually got like

a true taste of Gail was we were

638

00:31:43,835 --> 00:31:45,185

flying to Europe for the first time.

639

00:31:45,695 --> 00:31:50,695

And we were in, Gail bought fancy

business class seats for all of us.

640

00:31:50,715 --> 00:31:53,435

And I said, Oh, can

Matilda sit by the window?

641

00:31:53,915 --> 00:31:58,635

And Gail, uh, came nose to nose with

my kid and was like, What makes you

642

00:31:58,705 --> 00:32:00,445

think you deserve the window seat?

643

00:32:01,105 --> 00:32:02,465

And then, we hadn't taken off yet.

644

00:32:02,675 --> 00:32:03,975

And my kid just started screaming.

645

00:32:04,095 --> 00:32:07,115

And I just said, Cry as long

and as loud as you want.

646

00:32:07,125 --> 00:32:10,075

And all the people on the plane are

like, Why can't you shut that kid up?

647

00:32:10,075 --> 00:32:10,615

And I was like, Nope.

648

00:32:11,325 --> 00:32:11,645

Nope.

649

00:32:11,990 --> 00:32:14,990

Cause I wish somebody would have said,

cry as long and as loud as you want.

650

00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,360

Cause then you come into school.

651

00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:17,230

How old was she

652

00:32:17,230 --> 00:32:18,090

Marc Preston: when, when

y'all were doing it?

653

00:32:18,380 --> 00:32:18,470

Four!

654

00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:19,100

About four?

655

00:32:19,100 --> 00:32:19,480

Oh, okay.

656

00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:19,770

Okay.

657

00:32:19,770 --> 00:32:19,820

This is

658

00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:21,230

Moon Zappa: the first born grandkid.

659

00:32:21,230 --> 00:32:21,320

Yeah.

660

00:32:21,390 --> 00:32:22,780

Who says that to a kid?

661

00:32:22,820 --> 00:32:26,730

And then later in the flight, Gail walked

over and said, you can sit next to me now.

662

00:32:27,125 --> 00:32:29,065

And my kid said, no, thank you.

663

00:32:29,535 --> 00:32:31,375

Marc Preston: So she's got a

little chutzpah from an early age.

664

00:32:31,805 --> 00:32:34,985

So what is her, what's the arc of her

experience as far as what she's up to?

665

00:32:35,015 --> 00:32:38,715

Creatively, is she into anything

artistic kind of like you, or is she,

666

00:32:38,935 --> 00:32:41,865

do you see parts of you in her as

far as like how she likes to create?

667

00:32:42,065 --> 00:32:44,915

Moon Zappa: I hope I've created

an environment where there's that

668

00:32:44,935 --> 00:32:46,905

freedom to explore in any direction.

669

00:32:47,265 --> 00:32:51,665

I'll definitely a storyteller,

got my father's musical genes.

670

00:32:51,985 --> 00:32:55,755

That autodidact thing, that

perfectionism thing that we all have.

671

00:32:55,815 --> 00:32:56,185

Yeah.

672

00:32:56,295 --> 00:32:57,945

And we'll see what, where that takes her.

673

00:32:58,275 --> 00:33:01,295

Marc Preston: She has the same birthday

as your, as Frank, is that right?

674

00:33:01,295 --> 00:33:01,445

Yeah,

675

00:33:01,445 --> 00:33:03,115

Moon Zappa: that was just,

it was just so thrilling.

676

00:33:03,385 --> 00:33:04,845

That was just such a gift.

677

00:33:04,945 --> 00:33:06,205

It just made me so happy.

678

00:33:06,425 --> 00:33:09,415

Marc Preston: You had an experience

where you're, if nothing else,

679

00:33:09,425 --> 00:33:10,545

obviously the whole book's a memoir.

680

00:33:10,545 --> 00:33:11,665

You're doing a lot of reflection.

681

00:33:12,015 --> 00:33:13,905

And I can't imagine doing that.

682

00:33:13,945 --> 00:33:15,275

I wouldn't even know where to start.

683

00:33:15,275 --> 00:33:17,175

How did you know where to begin the story?

684

00:33:17,175 --> 00:33:18,089

Did you already have thoughts?

685

00:33:18,550 --> 00:33:21,390

Everything lined up in your

head or were you just grabbing

686

00:33:21,390 --> 00:33:22,880

your journals and just I did

687

00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:23,890

Moon Zappa: it in a

couple of different ways.

688

00:33:23,890 --> 00:33:26,670

One way was I had a friend who

was a documentary filmmaker.

689

00:33:26,670 --> 00:33:30,690

He did the film eat that question,

which is an amazing documentary about

690

00:33:30,690 --> 00:33:33,740

my father's classical music journey.

691

00:33:33,740 --> 00:33:37,090

And he took five years to find

interviews with my father.

692

00:33:37,090 --> 00:33:39,990

And so the whole movie is

just in my father's own voice.

693

00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:41,180

It's just a seamless.

694

00:33:41,615 --> 00:33:42,135

stories.

695

00:33:42,375 --> 00:33:44,355

Frank telling his own experiences.

696

00:33:44,385 --> 00:33:49,085

And so he suggested that I start

with gathering like a documentary

697

00:33:49,085 --> 00:33:51,055

filmmaker and just gather materials.

698

00:33:51,055 --> 00:33:54,155

And so then I went to friends and I said,

Hey, have I ever told you a story that

699

00:33:54,385 --> 00:33:57,805

you thought was weird or funny or that

you think somebody else would enjoy?

700

00:33:58,105 --> 00:33:59,835

And so then I would

write about those things.

701

00:33:59,835 --> 00:34:06,415

And then, and then I was again, Building

a timeline of when a moment I felt one

702

00:34:06,415 --> 00:34:11,785

way before the event and then another way

after the event and the way your brain

703

00:34:11,785 --> 00:34:17,375

works with trauma is you just the events

you'll loop on and loop on the memory

704

00:34:17,375 --> 00:34:19,305

just crystallizes around those events.

705

00:34:19,335 --> 00:34:22,225

I've been mapped those

on the timeline and.

706

00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:26,350

Yeah, and then I just tried to write

it like I was like, almost like a cold

707

00:34:26,350 --> 00:34:29,510

case or a mystery you're following,

or I don't know, I just tried to

708

00:34:29,510 --> 00:34:30,940

just tell it like a police report.

709

00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:34,060

Marc Preston: Even though there were

heavy things, for lack of a better way

710

00:34:34,060 --> 00:34:37,430

of putting it, going on around you, you

didn't write it in a very heavy way.

711

00:34:37,430 --> 00:34:41,280

There was a little levity, a little

humor to your own introspection.

712

00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:42,330

I thought it was charming.

713

00:34:42,330 --> 00:34:42,840

It was cool.

714

00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,040

I really enjoyed it.

715

00:34:44,210 --> 00:34:48,410

Moon Zappa: Another friend said to keep it

manageable, he said, it's just five pages.

716

00:34:49,135 --> 00:34:54,205

27 times, and so you can just break

it off into smaller pieces and, and

717

00:34:54,205 --> 00:34:55,555

then you treat it like it's a pancake.

718

00:34:55,595 --> 00:34:59,525

The first pancake always sticks to the

pan, in my experience, and so then you

719

00:34:59,525 --> 00:35:00,805

just keep refining and refining it.

720

00:35:00,855 --> 00:35:01,815

It's, it is true.

721

00:35:01,845 --> 00:35:03,085

Writing is rewriting.

722

00:35:03,235 --> 00:35:05,885

Marc Preston: How's the

relationship with your siblings now?

723

00:35:05,885 --> 00:35:09,815

Of course, you and Dweezil, the

way Gale kind of will or lack

724

00:35:09,815 --> 00:35:11,235

thereof, where he should have been.

725

00:35:11,555 --> 00:35:15,024

That drew a line between the

four of y'all that was that kind

726

00:35:15,025 --> 00:35:16,055

of been repaired a little bit.

727

00:35:16,745 --> 00:35:19,895

Moon Zappa: Definitely been repaired or

it's starting to be repaired with Amit.

728

00:35:19,925 --> 00:35:24,005

I just did his podcast called

Rocktails and that was a lot of fun.

729

00:35:24,015 --> 00:35:28,325

I, he read the book and it was

really fun to see his reactions.

730

00:35:28,325 --> 00:35:30,445

I won't say what he would,

what he talked about.

731

00:35:30,445 --> 00:35:33,475

You can watch the Rocktails thing,

but he, he really was a brother to me.

732

00:35:33,475 --> 00:35:34,445

He was like, I love this.

733

00:35:34,445 --> 00:35:34,835

I love this.

734

00:35:34,905 --> 00:35:36,035

But why did you talk about the.

735

00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:41,480

And, uh, and so that was really fun to

have him really behaving like a brother.

736

00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:47,860

But I think it, I think my goal was that

it would, it had the potential to, to

737

00:35:47,860 --> 00:35:51,940

create some healing there because I, I,

we have a shared history and I hope that

738

00:35:51,940 --> 00:35:55,590

I would have moments that were just,

I don't know, just the, that they all

739

00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,440

remember something about those times.

740

00:35:57,490 --> 00:35:59,470

They don't have to remember it the

way I remembered it, but maybe it

741

00:35:59,470 --> 00:36:02,835

would just spark A memory of their

own, or they'd see it another way.

742

00:36:03,385 --> 00:36:04,865

Marc Preston: Is Dweezil still performing?

743

00:36:04,905 --> 00:36:06,645

Is he still out

744

00:36:06,645 --> 00:36:07,635

Moon Zappa: there playing music?

745

00:36:07,665 --> 00:36:10,825

Dweezil will know our father

differently than any of us know

746

00:36:10,825 --> 00:36:12,025

him because he can play the music.

747

00:36:12,035 --> 00:36:14,305

And so few musicians

can even play the music.

748

00:36:14,305 --> 00:36:17,115

Dweezil's in a class by himself.

749

00:36:17,115 --> 00:36:20,745

He's in a league of his own, just

on just the musicianship level.

750

00:36:20,745 --> 00:36:23,355

And he's, he's just devoted to, to.

751

00:36:23,720 --> 00:36:27,740

The music getting out there

for the fans of Love My Father

752

00:36:27,740 --> 00:36:32,840

Forever and to introducing the

music to, to new audiences.

753

00:36:32,980 --> 00:36:33,740

So he's really,

754

00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:34,350

Marc Preston: he's

755

00:36:34,350 --> 00:36:34,850

Moon Zappa: dedicated.

756

00:36:35,335 --> 00:36:35,515

Marc Preston: Yeah.

757

00:36:35,515 --> 00:36:36,045

It's so funny.

758

00:36:36,045 --> 00:36:39,295

So the fans, how does it feel when people

come up to you and just, Oh my God.

759

00:36:39,295 --> 00:36:41,915

And they have their anecdotes about

growing up, listening to music.

760

00:36:41,965 --> 00:36:43,655

Is it something that you enjoy it?

761

00:36:43,785 --> 00:36:44,395

Of course.

762

00:36:44,395 --> 00:36:44,555

Yeah.

763

00:36:44,625 --> 00:36:44,905

It's

764

00:36:44,905 --> 00:36:46,435

Moon Zappa: another story about my father.

765

00:36:46,455 --> 00:36:48,915

It's, I just heard about some

interactions the other day.

766

00:36:48,915 --> 00:36:52,525

I heard a story about how my father

yelled at somebody and, and I wonder if

767

00:36:52,525 --> 00:36:53,654

he actually yelled, or if he just said.

768

00:36:54,095 --> 00:36:57,855

I had said something so, and so

directly that it felt like yelling.

769

00:36:58,315 --> 00:37:00,915

But yeah, my father never

raised his voice ever.

770

00:37:00,945 --> 00:37:04,895

He was the, he was always level

headed and never vindictive.

771

00:37:04,895 --> 00:37:06,135

And, but he was very clear.

772

00:37:06,145 --> 00:37:08,295

And so it's fun to hear

those kinds of stories.

773

00:37:08,335 --> 00:37:11,475

There's people that come up to me and

tell me about how wonderful Gail was.

774

00:37:11,505 --> 00:37:14,790

And, and I just say, I'm glad you had

a Positive experience with her, but

775

00:37:14,820 --> 00:37:17,610

it's everyone has different encounters.

776

00:37:17,610 --> 00:37:18,990

We are different to other people.

777

00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:22,210

We have, I'm sure you've got

mortal enemies and, and people

778

00:37:22,210 --> 00:37:23,120

that think you're wonderful.

779

00:37:23,460 --> 00:37:26,940

Marc Preston: Sometimes you have no idea

about where you set in people's minds.

780

00:37:27,370 --> 00:37:28,830

Moon Zappa: I read

something about CS Lewis.

781

00:37:28,830 --> 00:37:31,820

I think when he was talking about,

I think it was CS Lewis talking

782

00:37:31,820 --> 00:37:33,710

about the loss of a friend.

783

00:37:34,255 --> 00:37:37,025

And there was a group of friends

and they were all friends together.

784

00:37:37,025 --> 00:37:41,765

And when this particular friend died, they

all were grieving not just the friend,

785

00:37:41,785 --> 00:37:44,145

but who they were opposite that friend.

786

00:37:44,205 --> 00:37:45,725

And I thought that was

such an interesting.

787

00:37:46,310 --> 00:37:46,900

Idea.

788

00:37:46,910 --> 00:37:49,920

And then I read something recently

too, about in terms of storytelling,

789

00:37:49,940 --> 00:37:54,060

how we're all conditioned to the

Joseph Campbell model where it kind

790

00:37:54,060 --> 00:37:59,460

of all works out in the end, but grief

doesn't really follow those same rules

791

00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:03,620

and it's wrong to impose that kind

of expectation on a story like that.

792

00:38:03,620 --> 00:38:07,980

And so another aspect of my book is

I feel like I'm in the conversation

793

00:38:07,990 --> 00:38:12,080

about grief literacy, which

Mirabai Starr, that's that, that's

794

00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:13,900

that term that I heard from her.

795

00:38:14,340 --> 00:38:15,440

She's an amazing writer.

796

00:38:15,450 --> 00:38:19,500

And, and, and I think especially

in America, we, we don't know how

797

00:38:19,500 --> 00:38:21,800

to be with more difficult feelings.

798

00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,940

And I hope that this book,

people just feel a little bit.

799

00:38:26,625 --> 00:38:29,605

I don't know, more compassionate

towards themselves.

800

00:38:29,875 --> 00:38:32,595

Marc Preston: You said something is the

only way to get over it is go through it.

801

00:38:32,855 --> 00:38:35,275

I think I picked up something

with you and I agree with it.

802

00:38:35,285 --> 00:38:38,405

It's so funny that Alan Watts,

I, when I, we used to work on the

803

00:38:38,405 --> 00:38:39,995

radio in LA, I listened to him.

804

00:38:40,045 --> 00:38:43,585

It was interesting that we are not a

society that deals with kind of the

805

00:38:43,585 --> 00:38:47,485

grief thing and, and not like certain

Asian cultures, there's a process.

806

00:38:47,535 --> 00:38:49,275

Moon Zappa: I know there's,

I heard that expression.

807

00:38:49,275 --> 00:38:51,035

We're all just walking

each other home in the end.

808

00:38:51,035 --> 00:38:53,905

And, and I say, we're also

all growing each other up.

809

00:38:54,340 --> 00:38:58,910

And when they say hurtful, hurt

people, no, unwell hurt, people that

810

00:38:58,910 --> 00:39:02,260

are truly hurt don't want anyone else

to suffer what they've been through.

811

00:39:02,310 --> 00:39:04,910

They want people to not suffer.

812

00:39:11,860 --> 00:39:13,520

Marc Preston: Before we get

running, I always do something

813

00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:14,980

I call my seven questions.

814

00:39:14,980 --> 00:39:16,970

Just a little bit of fun

I like to do with folks.

815

00:39:16,980 --> 00:39:18,180

A little extra get to know ya.

816

00:39:18,540 --> 00:39:20,180

Fact that your family is Italian.

817

00:39:20,290 --> 00:39:21,300

I really want to know this one.

818

00:39:21,590 --> 00:39:24,030

What is your favorite comfort food?

819

00:39:24,100 --> 00:39:24,310

Moon Zappa: Tea.

820

00:39:24,690 --> 00:39:26,160

That's why I have a tea company.

821

00:39:26,220 --> 00:39:29,830

I have a tea company that

people can drink my tea.

822

00:39:29,830 --> 00:39:34,040

I, in fact, for my book, I made

a specialty cause you can smell a

823

00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:35,810

book and now you can taste a book.

824

00:39:36,060 --> 00:39:37,300

Marc Preston: What's wait, what's

the name of your tea company?

825

00:39:37,300 --> 00:39:37,470

Moon

826

00:39:37,470 --> 00:39:38,360

Moon Zappa: Unit Tea.

827

00:39:38,695 --> 00:39:39,755

You can get it on my website.

828

00:39:40,405 --> 00:39:40,775

Marc Preston: Okay.

829

00:39:40,775 --> 00:39:41,305

Very good.

830

00:39:41,495 --> 00:39:45,415

You know, you got me because I'm trying

to not have as much coffee, but I'm

831

00:39:45,415 --> 00:39:48,075

trying to integrate more tea into

my life here, but so tea, very good.

832

00:39:48,335 --> 00:39:52,075

Now you're going to talk story, have

coffee or tea with someone for three

833

00:39:52,075 --> 00:39:54,105

people for a few hours living or not.

834

00:39:54,115 --> 00:39:55,635

Who would those three people be?

835

00:39:55,900 --> 00:39:58,400

You would like to bring together,

sit down and talk story with,

836

00:39:58,750 --> 00:40:00,220

Moon Zappa: uh, bell hooks.

837

00:40:00,330 --> 00:40:04,460

She wrote amazing books about one

of the books was all about love.

838

00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:05,230

She's amazing.

839

00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:06,920

Clarissa Pinkola Estes.

840

00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:08,020

I'd like to sit down with her.

841

00:40:08,020 --> 00:40:08,900

She's still alive.

842

00:40:08,900 --> 00:40:10,320

She wrote women who run with the wolves.

843

00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:13,760

Marc Preston: You're the second

person to mention bell hooks.

844

00:40:13,790 --> 00:40:14,400

Oh, really?

845

00:40:14,410 --> 00:40:15,600

Um, yeah.

846

00:40:15,690 --> 00:40:15,850

Okay.

847

00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:16,480

It was Melissa.

848

00:40:16,550 --> 00:40:16,870

Okay.

849

00:40:16,900 --> 00:40:19,540

Now it's going to bug me now

because I, I can't remember.

850

00:40:19,540 --> 00:40:20,410

It's one of two people.

851

00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:21,240

Andy Daly.

852

00:40:21,270 --> 00:40:22,100

That was the other Andy.

853

00:40:22,100 --> 00:40:22,380

Moon Zappa: Sorry.

854

00:40:22,380 --> 00:40:22,710

Go ahead.

855

00:40:22,780 --> 00:40:23,450

Marc Preston: Kind of the same way.

856

00:40:23,450 --> 00:40:24,480

I'll remember something later.

857

00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:25,230

I was like, I got it.

858

00:40:25,380 --> 00:40:26,830

I triumphed over my memory.

859

00:40:27,180 --> 00:40:27,830

So very good.

860

00:40:27,830 --> 00:40:29,480

So I get to go check out bell hooks.

861

00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:32,130

Cause if you're the second person

who's mentioned a bell hooks, I've

862

00:40:32,130 --> 00:40:33,690

got to go do a little reading.

863

00:40:34,165 --> 00:40:38,205

Now, if we're going to go back

young, you first celebrity crush.

864

00:40:38,255 --> 00:40:39,255

Moon Zappa: Oh, Dennis Johnson.

865

00:40:39,255 --> 00:40:39,945

Can I have a fourth?

866

00:40:40,145 --> 00:40:41,285

I love his writing too.

867

00:40:41,495 --> 00:40:41,905

Okay, go ahead.

868

00:40:42,055 --> 00:40:42,585

Marc Preston: Sure.

869

00:40:42,635 --> 00:40:42,875

Go ahead.

870

00:40:42,875 --> 00:40:43,325

Absolutely.

871

00:40:43,325 --> 00:40:43,605

Question

872

00:40:43,605 --> 00:40:43,695

Moon Zappa: about

873

00:40:43,695 --> 00:40:44,125

Marc Preston: a crush.

874

00:40:44,155 --> 00:40:44,435

What?

875

00:40:44,625 --> 00:40:47,485

Your celebrity, first celebrity crush

when you were a kid, you're just

876

00:40:47,485 --> 00:40:49,565

infatuated with something about.

877

00:40:49,615 --> 00:40:55,365

Moon Zappa: Uh, I think Derek from the

Bay city rollers was before Sean Cassidy.

878

00:40:55,395 --> 00:40:59,355

I definitely always had a thing

for drummers and cleft in the chin.

879

00:40:59,375 --> 00:41:01,885

I was, I just thought that was

the dreamiest thing in the world.

880

00:41:01,885 --> 00:41:03,215

So I think that was.

881

00:41:03,725 --> 00:41:06,445

But I also liked the

redhead singer from ABBA.

882

00:41:06,475 --> 00:41:07,445

She also had a cleft.

883

00:41:07,445 --> 00:41:07,975

I think that's

884

00:41:08,970 --> 00:41:10,920

Marc Preston: Well, it begs the

question of what is it about the

885

00:41:10,930 --> 00:41:13,200

drummers that that's interesting?

886

00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:14,170

What drew you to the drummer?

887

00:41:14,180 --> 00:41:15,310

Moon Zappa: I don't know, but

it was definitely, it was my

888

00:41:15,310 --> 00:41:16,740

father's first instrument.

889

00:41:16,790 --> 00:41:20,200

I married a drummer that we divorced

when he became a guitar player.

890

00:41:20,260 --> 00:41:22,250

There's just something

about, about the drums.

891

00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:24,760

It just, it hits my body in

a way that I just love it.

892

00:41:24,900 --> 00:41:26,460

Marc Preston: He was a Matchbox 20, right?

893

00:41:26,460 --> 00:41:27,140

He still is.

894

00:41:27,140 --> 00:41:28,190

Yeah, he still is.

895

00:41:28,190 --> 00:41:30,960

But yeah, being on the radio

in my heyday was the nineties.

896

00:41:31,130 --> 00:41:32,810

At least one song per hour.

897

00:41:33,450 --> 00:41:35,270

I realized that's almost 30 years ago.

898

00:41:35,510 --> 00:41:38,650

Now, if you're going to be going to

an exotic island, somewhere you want

899

00:41:38,650 --> 00:41:42,500

to be, and it's like a resort, but

you're going to be somewhere a year,

900

00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:47,160

no internet streaming, nothing, you can

only bring one album, and you can only

901

00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:51,510

bring one movie or DVD, something you can

watch over and over again, and because

902

00:41:51,510 --> 00:41:54,830

I'm speaking with you, we can throw a

book in there as well, but something

903

00:41:54,830 --> 00:41:57,810

that You just are not going to tire of

904

00:41:58,040 --> 00:41:58,420

Moon Zappa: heaven.

905

00:41:58,420 --> 00:42:01,960

Can wait would be my movie or little

darlings, but probably haven't can wait.

906

00:42:02,060 --> 00:42:04,260

And the book, I probably bring

a journal that would help.

907

00:42:04,550 --> 00:42:08,010

And then for music, probably

Fiona Apple, something by Fiona.

908

00:42:08,430 --> 00:42:11,290

Marc Preston: The next question, if

you're a go from stem to stern, from

909

00:42:11,300 --> 00:42:14,450

the time you get up to the time you

go to bed, what are the component

910

00:42:14,510 --> 00:42:16,540

parts for you of a perfect day?

911

00:42:17,010 --> 00:42:21,510

Moon Zappa: Time in nature, tea,

a bath, connecting with somebody

912

00:42:21,510 --> 00:42:25,770

whose face lights up when they see

me and likewise time with my kid.

913

00:42:26,185 --> 00:42:27,495

Uh, maybe that's the same person.

914

00:42:27,505 --> 00:42:31,495

Hopefully making a home cooked

meal, five ingredients or less.

915

00:42:31,645 --> 00:42:33,765

Marc Preston: I don't follow

recipes, but if I got to follow a

916

00:42:33,765 --> 00:42:35,195

recipe, I'm just not going to do it.

917

00:42:35,195 --> 00:42:36,275

Just a few things through it.

918

00:42:36,305 --> 00:42:36,655

Yeah.

919

00:42:37,105 --> 00:42:40,695

Mike, my daughter, Emma was in, she

was studying in Spain and this past

920

00:42:40,695 --> 00:42:43,405

fall, she said, I just want to come

home and eat something out of a bowl.

921

00:42:43,455 --> 00:42:45,495

She was just loving the

food, but she, yeah.

922

00:42:45,785 --> 00:42:47,795

Moon Zappa: I didn't allow

the whole bowl meals.

923

00:42:47,795 --> 00:42:50,355

I, and I think I have

three plates to my name.

924

00:42:50,355 --> 00:42:51,105

Everything else is,

925

00:42:52,425 --> 00:42:52,525

Announcer: I just

926

00:42:52,635 --> 00:42:53,795

Moon Zappa: serve everything in the bowl.

927

00:42:53,795 --> 00:42:53,839

Okay.

928

00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:55,350

And I love a spoon.

929

00:42:55,380 --> 00:42:58,440

I love, especially a

soup spoon or a teaspoon.

930

00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:01,000

So at some point I'll be touching

something tactile and then probably

931

00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:02,260

just making some art at some point.

932

00:43:02,750 --> 00:43:03,840

Marc Preston: Okay, very good, very good.

933

00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:08,590

Now, if you weren't doing this, if you

do, as you're not doing just one thing,

934

00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:12,530

but if you were not predominantly doing

what you're doing now, where would you

935

00:43:12,530 --> 00:43:15,590

find joy as a vocation besides this?

936

00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:18,370

Moon Zappa: Choreography

or lighting design.

937

00:43:18,550 --> 00:43:20,770

Yeah, those are two

areas that appeal to me.

938

00:43:21,135 --> 00:43:23,575

Marc Preston: The last question I got

for you, if you were to jump into that

939

00:43:23,575 --> 00:43:27,355

DeLorean and go back when you were 16

years old, let's say, and you got a

940

00:43:27,355 --> 00:43:30,995

piece of advice for yourself to either

make that moment better, or maybe put

941

00:43:30,995 --> 00:43:32,435

yourself a little bit different track.

942

00:43:32,950 --> 00:43:35,280

What would that piece of

advice be to 16 year old

943

00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:38,370

Moon Zappa: invest in yourself

and don't, yeah, don't worry

944

00:43:38,370 --> 00:43:39,550

so much about other people.

945

00:43:40,130 --> 00:43:43,060

But I think I'm like, just as an adult,

going back to that, it's actually

946

00:43:43,070 --> 00:43:43,920

like to have a happy childhood.

947

00:43:44,260 --> 00:43:46,400

I think I might try

being selfish for a year.

948

00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:50,580

I think I can probably get, knowing me,

I'll probably maybe get an hour a week.

949

00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:54,860

When I say selfish, that's a judgy label,

but the idea of just investing in, in,

950

00:43:54,950 --> 00:43:59,330

in myself and just listening to me,

that's, that's something that is, is,

951

00:43:59,890 --> 00:44:01,700

That again, it's a theme in the book.

952

00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:05,390

It's a portrait of what they're now

calling toxic femininity, where you

953

00:44:05,390 --> 00:44:06,820

just give and give and have no needs.

954

00:44:06,830 --> 00:44:06,980

Yeah.

955

00:44:07,350 --> 00:44:09,880

Breaking that pattern is

part of that story too.

956

00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:10,000

So.

957

00:44:10,535 --> 00:44:13,285

Marc Preston: I think especially once

you become a parent, then your mind is

958

00:44:13,285 --> 00:44:18,605

all automatically disorganically shifted

into focusing on needs of someone else.

959

00:44:18,605 --> 00:44:21,755

And I think unless you're good for

yourself, it's really difficult to

960

00:44:21,765 --> 00:44:24,195

maximize what you do for somebody else.

961

00:44:24,295 --> 00:44:24,485

Yeah.

962

00:44:24,485 --> 00:44:26,525

Muna, I appreciate you taking

time out with me today.

963

00:44:26,525 --> 00:44:27,105

This was.

964

00:44:27,410 --> 00:44:28,150

Very enjoyable.

965

00:44:28,210 --> 00:44:29,410

And I'm really enjoying.

966

00:44:29,410 --> 00:44:30,160

Thank you so much.

967

00:44:30,820 --> 00:44:32,300

I love writing screenplay types.

968

00:44:32,470 --> 00:44:33,350

One last question.

969

00:44:33,350 --> 00:44:35,070

Actually, is that something

you've thought about doing?

970

00:44:35,070 --> 00:44:35,750

Is writing a screenplay?

971

00:44:36,020 --> 00:44:36,920

Yeah, I actually

972

00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:38,090

Moon Zappa: do screenplay writing.

973

00:44:38,090 --> 00:44:42,840

I have, uh, two different writing partners

and it's that that's where I enjoy

974

00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:49,570

that back and forth, uh, um, experience

that collaboration, uh, uh, that time.

975

00:44:50,675 --> 00:44:50,885

Marc Preston: Yeah.

976

00:44:50,885 --> 00:44:52,195

Cause you mentioned the lighting design.

977

00:44:52,195 --> 00:44:55,344

So imagine in a screenplay, you're

thinking in a visual way as well.

978

00:44:55,345 --> 00:44:55,825

You're the

979

00:44:56,145 --> 00:44:57,005

Moon Zappa: set designer.

980

00:44:57,005 --> 00:44:59,035

You're the location scout.

981

00:44:59,045 --> 00:45:00,035

You're the actor.

982

00:45:00,035 --> 00:45:00,245

You're

983

00:45:00,345 --> 00:45:01,005

Marc Preston: casting director.

984

00:45:01,005 --> 00:45:01,265

Yeah.

985

00:45:01,485 --> 00:45:04,075

Whenever I'm writing, I'm always like,

uh, they say not to do it, but I'm

986

00:45:04,075 --> 00:45:06,695

always, when I'm writing, I'm like,

I've already cast it in my brain.

987

00:45:06,695 --> 00:45:08,815

I know you're not supposed

to do that, actually.

988

00:45:08,815 --> 00:45:09,365

Cause then you can

989

00:45:09,405 --> 00:45:11,215

Moon Zappa: tap into the voice

sooner, especially if that

990

00:45:11,215 --> 00:45:13,205

person has such a strong persona.

991

00:45:13,205 --> 00:45:13,925

Sometimes I just.

992

00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:16,190

A character is just Ricky Gervais.

993

00:45:16,220 --> 00:45:20,760

I just, I don't know why I couldn't

get to some humor with if I,

994

00:45:21,380 --> 00:45:24,040

Carl Pilkington or Ricky Gervais

995

00:45:24,040 --> 00:45:24,180

Marc Preston: in

996

00:45:24,180 --> 00:45:24,620

Moon Zappa: a role.

997

00:45:24,900 --> 00:45:27,560

Marc Preston: Again, I appreciate

your time and I cannot wait

998

00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:29,580

to tell folks about the book.

999

00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:33,860

I don't read as much as I probably should,

but I've really enjoyed getting into it.

00:45:33,860 --> 00:45:34,367

so

00:45:34,367 --> 00:45:34,874

Moon Zappa: much.

00:45:34,874 --> 00:45:35,381

Yeah.

00:45:35,381 --> 00:45:36,396

All right.

00:45:36,396 --> 00:45:37,918

Marc Preston: There you go.

00:45:37,918 --> 00:45:39,439

Moon unit Zappa.

00:45:39,540 --> 00:45:43,250

Great conversation, really enjoyed the

opportunity to go down memory lane a

00:45:43,250 --> 00:45:47,540

little bit, get a little insight and have

a chance to check out her new memoir.

00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:49,790

It is called Earth to Moon.

00:45:49,970 --> 00:45:50,450

Pick it up.

00:45:50,740 --> 00:45:56,100

Not only is it a great book, great

story, personal story, but she's a

00:45:56,100 --> 00:45:58,400

great storyteller, a cool point of view.

00:45:58,690 --> 00:46:02,150

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00:46:38,700 --> 00:46:41,690

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00:46:41,690 --> 00:46:42,670

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00:46:42,700 --> 00:46:43,910

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00:46:43,910 --> 00:46:45,300

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00:46:45,300 --> 00:46:49,260

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